What’s cool today wasn’t cool last year and most likely won’t be cool next year. “Cool” is transitory, it comes and it goes, it’s superficial, it doesn’t’ have much depth, and it’s constantly changing.
When our children act out, they hurt us. They have disobeyed us, let us down, defied us, etc. We hurt and our natural inclination is to lash out and hurt them back. Human behavior teaches us we want others to feel our hurt and pain. That’s why we ground our kids for a month, make them put their noses on…
Most of the times our kids struggle to obey us it’s because they are scared. They don’t wan to misbehave but it’s the only way they can get out the stress that’s inside. What we want is to increase their ability to deal with stress and no how to verbalize and talk about. The easiest and best way to help…
Many times, when talking with parents this is the response they will give when talking about their child’s response to a difficult situation. It is well intentioned but not very helpful to the situation. If you have read my other blogs, you will now understand the behaviors we want to go away are simply the child’s ineffective responses to stress. …
The main cause of almost all psychological disorders (depression, anxiety, ptsd, etc.) is an inability to relate to people, to be in relationship, when we are stressed. A 5 year old hitting a classmate, 12 year old screaming at mom, 16 year old with no friends and only wanting to sit in their room in the dark all the time. …
Many times, parents complain of their children being absentminded and worry they may have ADHD or another disorder. After listening to the story and what is going on several things become clear. The child is being dictated to and given no choice in what they are to do. It’s no wonder the child then resists what they are being “told”…