One of the biggest struggles parents have, is seeing events through their children’s eyes or experiences. Parents will expect their child to respond to something as they would. Then they, the parent, become stressed, angry, upset, etc. when the child does not respond how they expected. STOP DOING THIS!! Here’s an example. A big struggle is when the parent, or…
Many times, when talking with parents this is the response they will give when talking about their child’s response to a difficult situation. It is well intentioned but not very helpful to the situation. If you have read my other blogs, you will now understand the behaviors we want to go away are simply the child’s ineffective responses to stress. …
Our natural instinct is to want to connect and engage with others. We want to feel close to our loved ones, especially our parents. When we feel good, we are able to freely engage with others. However, as stress builds up and our ability to cope with it diminishes, we begin to struggle to engage with others. Our first instinct…
One of the biggest struggles parents deal with is their child lying to them, teachers, or other authority figures. They are completely flustered and have no idea why the child lies or how to stop it. Lying is simply not telling the truth. So, the question is, why is the child not telling the truth? It’s actually a pretty simply…
The vast majority of families come to play therapy because their child is acting out in one way or another and they do not know 1) what is causing it and 2) what to do about it. Whether it is aggressive behaviors, developmentally regressive behaviors, withdrawal behaviors or something else, they all have the same stimulus, stress. Your child is…
Many times, parents complain of their children being absentminded and worry they may have ADHD or another disorder. After listening to the story and what is going on several things become clear. The child is being dictated to and given no choice in what they are to do. It’s no wonder the child then resists what they are being “told”…