Most of the times our kids struggle to obey us it’s because they are scared. They don’t wan to misbehave but it’s the only way they can get out the stress that’s inside. What we want is to increase their ability to deal with stress and no how to verbalize and talk about. The easiest and best way to help…
One of the biggest struggles parents have, is seeing events through their children’s eyes or experiences. Parents will expect their child to respond to something as they would. Then they, the parent, become stressed, angry, upset, etc. when the child does not respond how they expected. STOP DOING THIS!! Here’s an example. A big struggle is when the parent, or…
Many times, when talking with parents this is the response they will give when talking about their child’s response to a difficult situation. It is well intentioned but not very helpful to the situation. If you have read my other blogs, you will now understand the behaviors we want to go away are simply the child’s ineffective responses to stress. …
Stress Is A Good Thing In another blog post I discuss how being overwhelmed by stress causes all of our behavioral issues. You may be thinking stress is a bad thing. But it’s not, it’s actually a good thing. Stress is how we learn and grow. Only being overwhelmed by stress is a bad thing. Taking our bodies beyond their…
Our natural instinct is to want to connect and engage with others. We want to feel close to our loved ones, especially our parents. When we feel good, we are able to freely engage with others. However, as stress builds up and our ability to cope with it diminishes, we begin to struggle to engage with others. Our first instinct…
One of the biggest struggles parents deal with is their child lying to them, teachers, or other authority figures. They are completely flustered and have no idea why the child lies or how to stop it. Lying is simply not telling the truth. So, the question is, why is the child not telling the truth? It’s actually a pretty simply…
The main cause of almost all psychological disorders (depression, anxiety, ptsd, etc.) is an inability to relate to people, to be in relationship, when we are stressed. A 5 year old hitting a classmate, 12 year old screaming at mom, 16 year old with no friends and only wanting to sit in their room in the dark all the time. …
The vast majority of families come to play therapy because their child is acting out in one way or another and they do not know 1) what is causing it and 2) what to do about it. Whether it is aggressive behaviors, developmentally regressive behaviors, withdrawal behaviors or something else, they all have the same stimulus, stress. Your child is…