What’s cool today wasn’t cool last year and most likely won’t be cool next year. “Cool” is transitory, it comes and it goes, it’s superficial, it doesn’t’ have much depth, and it’s constantly changing.
When our children act out, they hurt us. They have disobeyed us, let us down, defied us, etc. We hurt and our natural inclination is to lash out and hurt them back. Human behavior teaches us we want others to feel our hurt and pain. That’s why we ground our kids for a month, make them put their noses on…
Most of the times our kids struggle to obey us it’s because they are scared. They don’t wan to misbehave but it’s the only way they can get out the stress that’s inside. What we want is to increase their ability to deal with stress and no how to verbalize and talk about. The easiest and best way to help…
One of the biggest struggles parents have, is seeing events through their children’s eyes or experiences. Parents will expect their child to respond to something as they would. Then they, the parent, become stressed, angry, upset, etc. when the child does not respond how they expected. STOP DOING THIS!! Here’s an example. A big struggle is when the parent, or…
Many times, when talking with parents this is the response they will give when talking about their child’s response to a difficult situation. It is well intentioned but not very helpful to the situation. If you have read my other blogs, you will now understand the behaviors we want to go away are simply the child’s ineffective responses to stress. …
Stress Is A Good Thing In another blog post I discuss how being overwhelmed by stress causes all of our behavioral issues. You may be thinking stress is a bad thing. But it’s not, it’s actually a good thing. Stress is how we learn and grow. Only being overwhelmed by stress is a bad thing. Taking our bodies beyond their…
Parents are always worried about emotionally hurting their child, or “screwing up” or doing something “wrong”. Well guess what, it’s going to happen. You’re going to say something dumb or hurtful or make a mistake or embarrass them, maybe even on a daily basis, maybe even in the next hour or minute. But that’s ok. Because we all do it. …