When our children act out, they hurt us. They have disobeyed us, let us down, defied us, etc. We hurt and our natural inclination is to lash out and hurt them back. Human behavior teaches us we want others to feel our hurt and pain. That’s why we ground our kids for a month, make them put their noses on…
Most of the times our kids struggle to obey us it’s because they are scared. They don’t wan to misbehave but it’s the only way they can get out the stress that’s inside. What we want is to increase their ability to deal with stress and no how to verbalize and talk about. The easiest and best way to help…
I know it seems like a crazy idea, but if we want to understand someone better, we kind of need to ask them if they can explain their beliefs, thoughts, and points of view with a genuine desire to understand them and what they have to say. I have parents all the time say things like, “I don’t understand why…
The vast majority of families come to play therapy because their child is acting out in one way or another and they do not know 1) what is causing it and 2) what to do about it. Whether it is aggressive behaviors, developmentally regressive behaviors, withdrawal behaviors or something else, they all have the same stimulus, stress. Your child is…